Out of the Shadows
Posted on February 7th, 2008 at 11:49 am by lkaunfer
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Yesterday, I felt lost that there is no place on this Earth where I belong. That I have nothing to offer anyone. That 7 years of school has accumulated nothing. How is it that I can be a therapist. How arrogant of me to assume that I can help others.I spent yesterday in the shadows. The shadows of who I really am. Am I who my parents say I am? If I am then then I can’t go on. Luise Hays says that in order to go on I must forgive them and all those who made fun of me growing up. I must forgive myself for believing them.School is over, I can no longer hide behind the books of facts. I have to step out. Step out into what? Where do I belong? What was the reason that I went back to school? Remind me of my purpose. I know that I feel sorry for children who are all locked up in their little worlds of confusion, waiting for some one to explain what is going on, someone who will tell them it’s OK and that they are perfect just the way they are.
I turned on the TV and Oprah’s program was about “The Secret”. I did not want to watch it. That works for others, not me. I forced myself to watch it, it was not the first time, I have the DVD and I have “What the Bleep are we Here For” as well. Yeah, yeah, I have heard it all.
Some thing stirred within me. There is a place for me, I do not know where, but I must keep going. I must forgive and let go of my fears of not being enough. |
Posted on January 27th, 2008 at 11:07 am by lkaunfer
Building Bridges
Posted on January 15th, 2008 at 5:57 pm by lkaunfer
Let us all lay down the differences, and take up our commonalities. We know that we as parents could have done a far better job… what else can I say? What is important now is to forgive each other.
The schools are bad enough. Instead of turning away from our classmates in fear of not being accepted, let us turn toward each other in comfort, understanding and truth.
I would like to tell you something that I learned in Communication class. It is a little complicated, but here goes.
In every conversation between two people there are really six. Sounds weird but stay with me on this one.
There is the person that you are, the person that you think you are and the person that you want the other person to think you are.
To make your school a happy place of higher learning, students should talk to the person that your class-mate wants you to think they are.
That is right, if we talk to the person that the other person wants us to think they are, that person will be able to keep their sense of dignity, their feelings of being accepted, unique and belonging. All of which are vital to to well-being.
If we all talked to the person that we want others to think that we are everything would change. We want others to think highly of us so we put our best foot forward, right? There would be no more humiliation and isolation. We would all be helping each other to become the best that we could possibly be by holding the vision.
If you want to see it work try it.
Love and Laughter, Starbaby
